{"id":3120,"date":"2009-12-06T21:07:21","date_gmt":"2009-12-06T20:07:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thebkmag.com\/?p=3120"},"modified":"2009-12-06T21:07:21","modified_gmt":"2009-12-06T20:07:21","slug":"stalkers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thebkmag.com\/rebuild\/eclectic\/stalkers\/","title":{"rendered":"A World Without Stalkers"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is WAY off topic, but as my blog deals with any subject that I may deem to be of sufficient importance to share with you, I felt compelled to do so regarding the topic of “Stalkers”<\/strong><\/em><\/a>.\u00a0 If anyone has ever had this very unpleasant experience, here is an article that has been posted by, End Stalking in America Inc<\/strong><\/em><\/a>., a non-profit organization based in the USA. Very illuminating read, to say the least.<\/p>\n

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Update:<\/span><\/em> <\/strong>I am being stalked, defamed and slandered by a person who uses the pseudo: focustnv\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>as well as Krista Kay<\/a><\/em> on Facebook.<\/strong> Her real name is Rochelle Michaels<\/strong><\/em><\/a> and I am placing another restraining order on her.<\/p>\n

Her My Space ID is: http:\/\/www.myspace.com\/focus2life<\/strong><\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

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If you read nothing else on this site, please take the time to read this section.\u00a0 It is extremely important to be aware of the following traits of stalkers. These will alert you to the possibility that a potential suitor or even a friend or acquaintance could become a stalker.<\/p>\n

Stalkers will not take no for an answer.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

They refuse to believe that a victim is not interested in them or will not rekindle their relationship and often believe that the victim really does love them, but just doesn\u2019t know it and needs to be pushed into realizing it. As long as they continue pursuing their victim, the stalker can convince themselves they haven\u2019t been completely rejected yet.<\/p>\n

Stalkers display an obsessive personality.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

They are not just interested in, but totally obsessed with the person they are pursuing. Their every waking thought centers on the victim, and every plan the stalker has for the future involves the victim. Ask yourself this. Is the person totally involved in and completely overwhelmed with pursuing someone who has no and never will have any interest in him or her?<\/p>\n

Along with obsessive thinking, they also display other psychological or personality problems and disorders. They may suffer from erotomania, paranoia, schizophrenia, and delusional thinking. According to Professor R. Meloy, \u201cthese stalkers have rigid personalities and maladaptive styles. These disorders in themselves are very stable and not treatable.\u201d There are drugs to treat certain specific mental disorders, but stalkers, when given the choice, seldom continue with their medication or treatment.<\/p>\n

Stalkers are above average in intelligence and are usually smarter than the run of the mill person with mental problems.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

They will go to great lengths to obtain information about their victims or to find victims who have secretly moved. They have been known to hack into computers, tap telephone lines, take jobs at public utilities that allow them access to the victims or information about the victims, and even to travel thousands of miles and spend thousands of dollars to gain information about or find their victims. Stalkers many times use their intelligence to throw others off their trail.
\nMost stalkers don\u2019t have any relationship outside the one they are trying to re-establish or the one they have imagined exists between them and their victim.
\nBecause they are usually loners, stalkers become desperate to obtain this relationship.<\/p>\n

Stalkers don\u2019t display the discomfort or anxiety that people should naturally feel in certain situations.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Normal individuals would be extremely embarrassed to be caught following other people, going through their trash looking for information about them, leaving obscene notes, and other inappropriate behavior displayed by stalkers. Stalkers, however, don\u2019t see this as inappropriate behavior, but only as a means to gain the person\u2019s love.<\/p>\n

Stalkers often suffer from low self-esteem, and feel they must have a relationship with the victim in order to have any self worth.
\nPreoccupations with other people almost always involve someone with weak social skills and low self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Few stalkers can see how their actions are hurting others. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

They display other sociopathic thinking in that they cannot learn from experience, and they don\u2019t believe society\u2019s rules apply to them. Most stalkers don\u2019t think they\u2019re really threatening, intimidating, or even stalking someone else. They think they\u2019re simply trying to show the victims that they\u2019re the right one for them.\u00a0\u00a0To the victims of stalking it is like a prolonged rape.<\/p>\n

Stalkers, like rapists, want absolute control over their victims. They don\u2019t regard what they\u2019re doing as a crime, or even wrong.\u00a0To them it is true love, with the exception that the victim doesn\u2019t recognize it yet. With enough persistence, stalkers believe they will eventually convince the victims of their love.
\nStalkers many times have a mean streak and will become violent when frustrated.\u00a0 How violent?\u00a0 Often deadly.<\/p>\n

The above traits remind us that much of stalking involves harassment and annoyance, but never forget that stalkers can also be extraordinarily dangerous. \u00a0 Believing that their victims love and care for them, stalkers can become violent when frustrated in their quest for this love.<\/p>\n

Although the majority of cases do not end in murder or grave bodily injury, enough do every year that victims should never brush aside the possibility. Victims of stalking should never take the crime lightly, no matter who the stalkers are or how close they have been emotionally.<\/p>\n

Look carefully again at the traits below and be wary if someone seems to fit these.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Won\u2019t take no for an answer
\nHas an obsessive personality
\nAbove average intelligence
\nNo or few personal relationships
\nLack of embarrassment or discomfort at actions
\nLow self esteem
\nSociopathic thinking
\nHas a mean streak<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This is WAY off topic, but as my blog deals with any subject that I may deem to be of sufficient importance to share with you, I felt compelled to do so regarding the topic of “Stalkers”.\u00a0 If anyone has ever had this very unpleasant experience, here is an article that has been posted by, End Stalking in America Inc., a non-profit organization based in the USA. Very illuminating read, to say the least. Update: I am being stalked, defamed […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3121,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[47],"tags":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/thebkmag.com\/rebuild\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/stalkers.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/saG8MM-stalkers","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":17543,"url":"https:\/\/thebkmag.com\/rebuild\/eclectic\/amazing-ufo-video-capture-in-turkey\/","url_meta":{"origin":3120,"position":0},"title":"Amazing UFO Video Capture in Turkey","author":"Benjamin Kanarek","date":"May 15, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"I have been researching this topic for several years and these video's happen to be some of the most compelling to date","rel":"","context":"In "Eclectic"","block_context":{"text":"Eclectic","link":"https:\/\/thebkmag.com\/rebuild\/category\/eclectic\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/thebkmag.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/05\/76b28c06bc66.png?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":7261,"url":"https:\/\/thebkmag.com\/rebuild\/eclectic\/edgar-mitchell-apollo-astronaut-ufo-disclosure\/","url_meta":{"origin":3120,"position":1},"title":"Dr.Edgar Mitchell Apollo Astronaut UFO Disclosure","author":"Benjamin Kanarek","date":"April 3, 2010","format":false,"excerpt":"This may be considered way off topic, but is of such great significance that I felt compelled to share this interview and intermingled video footage from the Space Shuttle and Apollo missions, that will at the very least have you ponder the possibilities. 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